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21 Lessons Learned at age 21. A personal, annual reflective piece done by Bobbi in honor of her birthday. She shares lessons/ personal truths that she has learned in the past year symbolizing each year of life. Hope you enjoy!

1. Go where you are appreciated

Dwell in places where you are genuiney appreciated and not just tolerated.

2. It's never too late

It's never too late to start something new or different. I say this in reference to me getting

my license at 21 and transferring to a new academic institution.

3. Resiliency is second nature

I am more resilient than I give myself credit for. I didn;t start driving until this past year

and I got both my license and first car. Go me!

4. I am capable

I am capable of anything I put my faith and mind to. I am not hopeless in this world or life.

5. I was right (at least, sometimes. Lol!)

Most situations where I didn't trust my intuition, my intuition end up being right. C'est la

vie.

6. Patience is a virtue

My grandmother always provide the anecdote of "Patience is a virue" to me when I get

frustrated. In the past year, I have excercised more patience with myself and my goals.

7. Divine Timing is the best timing

Human timing is always rushed and I have learned that the plans destined in my life are

under heavenly control. Trust the process and trust the waiting seasons in your life.

8. I should have punched more bitches in their face(s)

You read right. Violence is the answer sometimes. There is nothing wrong with a spiritual

gangster. Purrr!

9. Relatives are relatives and family is family

There are those you are simply biologically related to and then, there are those who

become family through kinship.

10. Do not seek validation from others

What I think of me is the only thing that matters and I think I'm pretty fucking cool.

11. Appreciate the present moment

We strive too much for an uncertain future while letting life pass us by. I want to be more

present. "The Now" is the only certain thing

12. Be your own advocate

I have a voice and I have to use it. I had to learn how to be my own best friend - (Word to

Beyoncé.

13. Saying "no" is okay

I am more than entitled to reject anything or anyone that does not best suit or serve me a

time without guilt or shame.

14. My creations are for me

You may not always get the public kudos that you know you deserve, but learn to clap

for yourself. The creation of this blog right here is a success story in which I had to clap

for myself first

15. I am successful and have succeeded

I have overcome so many obstacles and handled so much with grace. That right there is

success.

16. My journey is my own

"Comparison is the thief of joy." I choose to no longer compare where I am to anyone

else's place in life. My journey is mine.

17. Life be life' ing [hard]

Life is definitely that girl. She does not come to play. She happens to everybody. You

can only simply choose to sit back and enjoy her.

18. It's okay to bow out (before it gets bad)

Learn when you have overstayed your welcome. Hell, learn if you were even welcomed

in the first place. Quitting is, in fact, a winner's sport.

19. Stop shaming yourself

There is no shame in experiencing the perils of life. Shit happens. I am learning to see

and make my own silver linings.

20. I do care and that's okay

It's okay to care and to care deeply. It does not make you weak. You are a full blown

human with emotions, after all.

21. Girl, just take a deep breath and slow down

Having the luxury to take a breath is sometimes all the saving grace you need. Who are

you rushing for? Honor the space in and around you. You deserve peace within stillness.

I hope all the lessons mentioned inspire whoever reads this in any type of way. Thank you for reading and thank you for letting me share my year with you. Looking forward to all 22 has to offer.

- Be Well